Being Friends with Brothers
Brothers. I only have one brother, but I know that brothers are very different from sisters, and that’s because boys are different from girls. So, we relate to our brothers differently than we relate to our sisters. We build relationships with them in different ways from our sisters. While I was thinking about this, I asked my brother what a girl can do to build a relationship with her brother. He thought about it for a minute and then said, “Bake cookies!” That just proves that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach and that includes brothers! So bake lots of cookies! :)
Another way to build relationships with our brothers is to show interest in their interests. People generally like to talk about the things they are interested in. Our brothers are no exception. We can show interest in their interests by listening when they talk about their interests. My brother has an interest in computer networking and programming and likes to share with me what he’s learning. I listen to him talk, but eventually he starts using terms I don’t understand and I have no idea what he’s talking about except that it has something to do with computers. When this happens, I politely stop him and tell him that I don’t understand some of the words he’s using. He then backtracks and explains the terms he used. This builds our relationship because my brother knows I really am listening to him. On this topic of showing interest, my brother did give a caution. We need to show interest, but not take the interest. My brother explained to me that if I had decided to show interest in his interests by learning about computers with him, he would have felt like it was a competition to see who could know the most about the topic, and lost interest in it. So be careful. You and your brother can have similar interests, but make sure it’s something you really are interested in.
A very important way we can build relationships with our brothers is by helping them be men. Boys were created to grow up to be men; to be leaders, protectors, and providers. We as sisters can help them become the men God created them to be by letting them lead. This can be hard to do (especially for older sisters!). We like to be in charge. However, we need to build up our brothers and encourage them to take the lead. When your brother makes a suggestion (maybe about what game to play, or how to play it), don’t just brush him off. Even if the idea sounds crazy, or like it won’t work, try it anyway. You might try asking your brother what he would like to do, or if he has a suggestion on how to do something differently. Of course, if you ask him, you have to be willing to do it!
The relationship between a brother and a sister can be cold, strained, and practically nonexistent, or it can be warm, strong, and pleasant. Build your relationship with your brother today by showing interest in him and letting him lead. And don’t forget the occasional batch of cookies! :)
Another way to build relationships with our brothers is to show interest in their interests. People generally like to talk about the things they are interested in. Our brothers are no exception. We can show interest in their interests by listening when they talk about their interests. My brother has an interest in computer networking and programming and likes to share with me what he’s learning. I listen to him talk, but eventually he starts using terms I don’t understand and I have no idea what he’s talking about except that it has something to do with computers. When this happens, I politely stop him and tell him that I don’t understand some of the words he’s using. He then backtracks and explains the terms he used. This builds our relationship because my brother knows I really am listening to him. On this topic of showing interest, my brother did give a caution. We need to show interest, but not take the interest. My brother explained to me that if I had decided to show interest in his interests by learning about computers with him, he would have felt like it was a competition to see who could know the most about the topic, and lost interest in it. So be careful. You and your brother can have similar interests, but make sure it’s something you really are interested in.
A very important way we can build relationships with our brothers is by helping them be men. Boys were created to grow up to be men; to be leaders, protectors, and providers. We as sisters can help them become the men God created them to be by letting them lead. This can be hard to do (especially for older sisters!). We like to be in charge. However, we need to build up our brothers and encourage them to take the lead. When your brother makes a suggestion (maybe about what game to play, or how to play it), don’t just brush him off. Even if the idea sounds crazy, or like it won’t work, try it anyway. You might try asking your brother what he would like to do, or if he has a suggestion on how to do something differently. Of course, if you ask him, you have to be willing to do it!
The relationship between a brother and a sister can be cold, strained, and practically nonexistent, or it can be warm, strong, and pleasant. Build your relationship with your brother today by showing interest in him and letting him lead. And don’t forget the occasional batch of cookies! :)
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